MAKE IT WORK!--Marriage Is God's Answer to Teenage Sex Problems!
DO 2433
6/88
[HomeARC note (6/98): The Charter is the current source of Family policy and rules regarding sex and marriage.]
1. Most teenagers are going to get together somehow, come what may! But you've got to watch out that you warn them what's going to happen if they do.
2. Now beloved, I realise we're a very sexy Family & we believe in sex, but you've got to watch out! It only takes one little discontented miscreant, one little offended backslider who wants to justify himself for backsliding & makes that his complaint.
3. Where did you ever find in any of the Letters that I have advocated complete sexual freedom amongst teenagers? There's only one thing that [is advocated] in the way of teenagers having sex, & what is it? (Fam: Marriage.)--Absolutely nothing but marriage!
4. I think in my Letters you'll find what I consider the solution to the teens' need for sex.--[As] married couples!--And to have children under the supervision of their elders!
WHY TEEN MARRIAGES DON'T WORK!--DID GOD MAKE A MISTAKE?
6. Marriage was my whole idea, that that is God's plan. Well, I've heard complaints & beefs & opposition to this idea because they say some teenage marriages have fluked out & they haven't worked & they cause nothing but problems & they've been a mess & blah blah blah! You've gotten to where you sound like the System, agree with the System, "Teenage marriages don't work!"
7. If that's what God intended, I want to know why they don't work? I think we have not really worked on it to make them work, & made the teenagers realise how serious it is, that it's time to get down to business & get to work & get serious about it & learn responsibility & obligation & consideration & to become adults & stop fooling around!
FAITHFULNESS & LOYALTY IN MARRIAGE!
8. I make love to a lot of women, but I only sleep with one. And I think if there's anything our marriage should have taught you, it's faithfulness & loyalty to each other! If there's any couple that could be a shining example of a co-ministry, co-working for the Lord, it's Mama & me!--Putting God first, loving & helping others, the perfect mates for the job who are deeply in love with each other, really love each other & need each other & are in tune with each other & who can discuss problems together & find solutions together & pray together & sleep together & have faithful sex together, even if occasionally we make love to somebody else because we have that freedom!
9. I have always advocated mates, marriages, fathers, mothers & children! Just read my Letters!--Not promiscuity!--Not just this new wave of thinking that the Family is so sexually free, they don't have to be married, they don't have to be fathers or mothers, they don't have to have any mate responsibilities, they don't have to have any child responsibilities, that our boys can just pick up & take off, desert their families, desert their wives, desert their children & do as they please! Somebody didn't teach the Love of God to people who do that sort of thing!
10. We need a program for teenage marriages! We need a program of training for husbands--I like that term, believe it or not--& wives--we haven't abandoned that term either! I've said we still need mates, & especially mothers & fathers should be loyal to each other & to their child, & taught such loyalty as a duty, a responsibility, a law! And if they fail, they're disobeying the Love of God & the laws of the Family & my laws, for God's sake!
11. If our teenage marriages have failed, it's not their fault, not God's fault, certainly not the baby's fault, but your fault! Our fault! And I want to tell you right now, I want to set myself on record in black-&-white right now, that I am not in favour of teenage promiscuity, sexual freedom, but I am in favour of encouraging marriages!--Marriages! Did you hear that? Marriages!--Fatherhood, motherhood, babyhood, loyalty, faithfulness of mates, responsibility, duty, obligation!--Just as much as the System is, if not more! (Prays:)
12. Well, Lord, You do it in Jesus' name! Help us come to some conclusions about how we should handle these people who need sex, who deserve sex, who should have sex, but they need to learn the responsibilities of sex & the obligations of sex to some one person, so they can have children, Lord, who will have a father & a mother, in Jesus' name.
13. Help us to develop a program that doesn't just encourage teenage sex, but encourages teenage marriage & legitimate sex within the confines of faithful, loyal matehood & marriage, in Jesus' name! So they can have wonderful babies who have a mother & a father who love them & love each other & are an example to them of what real love is like, & to be thankful for them, proud of them. "That's my Dad! That's my Mom!"--So help us, Lord, in Jesus' name to teach them right & to organise & govern this right, in Jesus' name, amen.
14. The System can't get their kids to obey because they don't obey! They can't get their kids to admire them for being good fathers & mothers because they're not! They can't see love in their mother & father toward each other, so they can't understand how there could be such love! They're not good examples, so their teenage marriages fail! Are our teenage marriages failing for the same reason?--They don't see it in their parents? They don't see real matehood? Real marriage? Real love? Real responsibility? Real duty to obey & do the right thing whether they like it or not?
15. Sexual freedom within certain bounds is one thing, & even that should be guided & guarded by specific rules that certain things are outside the limits & not according to the rules of the game. So that's my message to you today, that encouraging, authorising & providing for teenage promiscuity is not the answer!
16. But we need to encourage our teenagers that there is such a thing as married love, loyalty, faithfulness & communication, as well as faithfulness to children, a responsibility, obligation & duty to take care of their children.--Even if they don't love them, they have got to take care of them anyway! Don't let them get away with it! Make'm! And let them know that they're absolutely disobeying the laws of God & of the Family if they don't do what they're supposed to do!
OLDER MEN WITH TEEN GIRLS: BEWARE!
17. These older men who get involved with teenage girls, I condemn it! They're profligates! They're lechers! They're a Hell of an example of a leader of this Family! They're a very poor sample. They're a bad sample, not just very poor, a bad sample! [HomeARC note (6/98): Any such activity is grounds for excommunication under the Charter. See "Offences Warranting Excommunication," point 2.D., p.118.]
18. We even sent out a long letter on it written by Sara once upon a time [8/86] & in that Letter from Sara we forbade it!
GOD'S PLAN & ROLE FOR GRANDPARENTS!
19. God intended for those young teenagers to live with their parents & be trained by their parents, taught by their parents, for their parents to help solve their problems, teach them how to take care of their babies & train them & all the rest. The home is the ideal training place. Your home, the parents' home, is the ideal place to train these young teenage parents how to be parents, how to be good husbands, how to be good wives, how to take care of & train their children. To finish your job as a good parent, is to be a good grandparent, & teach your children in your home what they need to know, how to survive & how to rear their children, before they're ready to go out into the World on their own.
20. You're not done with your job until you have trained your children to be good mates, good parents, & they're able then to go off to some other home & live independently somewhere else, having had your good training, your good example, your good care, so that they know how to be a husband & wife by your example & teaching.--So they know how to be a father & mother, so they're well prepared to then be independent & live separately somewhere else, because you have prepared them for it, & you have taught them, trained them & set the example & showed them that it's possible to have real Love. That's real Love, not just sex! But until they've made the hurdle of marriage & children, your job is not done! You haven't really been a good parent yourself until you've been a good grandparent & you've helped your children get married & have children of their own.
THE TEEN MARRIAGE DEPARTMENT!
22. I think that even the young couples themselves would approve more of being more legitimised & considered more in line with the normal laws of God's Word & the Family, & provided for accordingly. We have all other kinds of departments, where is our young Teenage Marriage Department?
MARRIAGE & FAMILIES: THE IDEAL PLAN OF GOD!
23. If you say that you don't want them to get married--then you're defying the laws of God, & God's plan & God's order & God's rules & God's Own idea! The whole idea of sex is to have a couple that loves one another & cares for one another & is concerned about each other & the welfare of each other first of all, & then is concerned about the babies that result therefrom, & knows that they're responsible to take care of them & provide for them!
24. So I expect our older teenagers to start looking around for a suitable husband or a suitable wife, some woman they love & would like to take care of.--Or a husband they love & would like to take care of.
25. I still believe in real old-fashioned Love & falling in Love & wanting to take care of somebody & help somebody & be their mate, be half of them, & have their children! I'm that old-fashioned! Maybe you think that's systemite, all this romantic idea of the movies. Well, it's still the World's ideal. They still know that that's Heaven, that's the ultimate, that's Love, for you to finally find somebody you really love, who loves you & you live happily ever after together. Those are still the happiest movies & the happiest love stories, the ones where they finally find each other, the love of their life, & finally decide they want to live together for the rest of their life & have each other's children & take care of each other & take care of their children, have a home, a happy home of Love!
26. It certainly seems like as soon as our teenagers find out which one they like the best & which one they would like to live with, that it's then time to knuckle down to the hard work & the responsibility of taking care of each other! We now want supervised teenage marriages, preferably kept in separate quarters, under good fathers & mothers, superiors, grandparents, who know what they need & know how to sock it to'm & make'm obey the rules & make'm take care of each other, or at least persuade'm to take care of each other & show'm how to really love each other, setting a good example yourself with your marriage & your children.
27. It's a little hard to do in our Family sometimes since so many are married to the Lord & His Work, but you can show that even if you're not actually always living together, that you're still the best of friends, & you're working together in the same Work, in the same Family, & you'd be sleeping together if it were possible.--Teach them so, show'm! "We're not divorced, we're not even necessarily separated, but we're just more or less obligated to be apart because we're married to the Lord & His Work!"
28. Let's not give our teenagers the idea that the Family is just a place of free love & total promiscuity where anybody can do as they please regarding sex, & you don't have to be loyal to anybody, you don't have to take care of anybody, you don't even have to take care of your babies! You can litter them all over the place here & there like some of our people have. I don't think that's a very good example.
29. Just look back over history, thousands of years of history have proven that marriage of husbands to wives, having children & making a home is the ideal situation & the ideal plan of God.
30. God intended for parents to love each other & show the children that love.--And to give the children a feeling of security & stability, a home of faith & love & care & concern, & not just an in & out proposition, scattering babies along the way!
THE TEENAGE MARRIAGE MINISTRY: IT'S ABOUT TIME!
31. I think we need a young Teenage Marriage Ministry, & we need to make it work! It was intended to work. It's God's plan! And let's face it, in societies & cultures where families are far more important than in the culture from which most of us came, & there's a great deal more family loyalty & faithfulness & closeness & inter-dependence, it has worked! They have better families, better children & obviously better parents & grandparents who are willing to take the responsibility, & then finally the children take responsibility for the old folks. I wouldn't use American society as any kind of good example of marriage or for young married couples at all!
32. But for thousands of years the family has been the basic building block of society. If your families are good, your society's going to be good. But if your families fall apart, your society is going to fall apart. As I always say, "The family that prays together stays together," & in the societies where the family has stayed together, the society has stayed together & been much better.
TEACH'M RESPONSIBILITY NOW!
33. (Fam: I've got an idea. Even if the Schools don't have all the details of housing & separate quarters worked out, even if they don't start the marriage part, they could start the responsibility program. The girls could learn more about childcare, about kitchen, laundry, housekeeping, that side of it. The Schools could make sure that they program things so that they're really learning all those things even before they get married. And the boys could also learn more about childcare & handyman, etc.)
34. Maybe it could be called our Premarital Training Course.--"This is to prepare you for marriage, & whether you have anyone contemplated yet or not, this will give you a little idea of what marriage is all about & what it entails. And you're not going to get free unlimited sex until you start learning the responsibilities of marriage, then that will be your reward!" We can call it betrothal so we don't run into any technical, legal terminology problems.
WEDDING NIGHT!
35. You could have a room or cottage or whatever devoted to teenage marriages, where the night after the ceremony they could move into their bridal chamber, & you could make sure they know what they should know about sex before they make a mess of it the first try & always have an unhappy memory like I did.
36. That's the kind of thing you can help to avoid with a little consultation, a little counsel & a little instruction. I covered this whole topic a long time ago in a lecture at TSC. (See "Revolutionary Love-Making," No.N, & "Revolutionary Marriage," No.259.) In the early days of the Family I had to give quite a bit of preliminary instruction to some of the new couples that we betrothed. Sometimes they had problems & we had to help them. This is the perfect place to do it, in the Family, where we're open & free about things, & where you know it's all in the Lord & in love, & that helps to eliminate one of the biggest problems, which is fear.
37. I'm not kidding, I think it would be a real blessing to have somebody oversee that first night & make sure they make it. I think it would really be a good way of introducing teens to marriage, teaching them & training them in not only sex, but then how to keep the husband happy the next morning by getting up & making him a nice breakfast or something, or for him to serve her breakfast in bed or whatever. They would have a wedding night & honeymoon with supervisors to make sure they learn & know how & are satisfied.--Make sure that not only he's satisfied, which usually doesn't take long, but that he satisfies her as well.
38. They can learn how to be married, how to be happy though married, where you can teach them how to really enjoy sex, & give them a whole course in marriage relations. I think your idea of teaching them as much as possible ahead of time is great.
39. So you'd have to have a House Father & a House Mother to supervise, amen? Too many young couples think that their wedding night is going to be Heaven on Earth, & they sometimes find out it's just the beginning of all their troubles. And they often don't even know what the cause or the troubles or the answers are, & there's nobody there to tell'm & they're ashamed to ask. They don't even want to ask their parents, so they usually go to some stranger or doctor or somebody else to find out. How much better to have one of their Christian parents right there who knows & loves them & knows all about it & can explain & teach & show & whatnot. Amen?
PREMARITAL TRAINING!
40. The House Mother & Father can also see how much they learned from their premarital training & give them a few tests. See if she knows how to cook his breakfast or if maybe he knows how to fix her lunch & things like that, see if she's learned how to make a bed or whatever, all the things that are involved in living together, married life. See if they've learned how to keep their room neat & clean & orderly.
41. The premarital training should teach the girls to cook, teach the boys how to fix things around the house, how to fix the toilet, how to fix the plumbing, how to fix the lights.--Simple little things, but they happen to everybody & they could mean the difference between a happy marriage & an unhappy one. A girl soon loses respect for a man who doesn't know how to fix a thing around the house, I know I would!
42. So really teach the boys, give them a specific course & training, how the toilet works & what's apt to go wrong & how you can fix it, how to stop it if it runs & how to unstop the drains & all those little things that you think everybody would know, but you'd be surprised how many kids have never been taught! They can be taught maintenance work & even gardening, painting & all kinds of things. A house has always got something that needs fixing or improving or whatever.
43. There are so many little things that they may or may not have learned around the house, so you need to have a specific course in them & teach them how to do all these things, that these are the responsibilities of a wife, & these are the duties of a husband. The boy should learn all about how to fix things & help clean the house as well & take care of the yard, which is usually the man's job.
44. The girls need to learn how to cook, & you can teach them some common sewing things that they have to take care of--how to sew up a ripped-out hem in case they don't know, or how to darn a sock.--Like the old Home Economics courses they teach in school. It could be a whole course in Home Economics or Homemaking, whatever they want to call it!
45. (Fam: Someone who knows handyman work could teach them all about light switches & how to fix lights, or could teach them all about the plumbing, etc.)--Right, & have the girls learn how to cook different meals. They ought to learn at least 3 main dishes where they can serve a different dish 3 nights in a row every night, then start back again.
46. There are so many things you could teach them just living together & working together, all the things they need to know to have a happy home together, which our Homes ought to be teaching them. Our Homes are the perfect atmosphere in which to teach them. Now that we're having a lot of teenagers, they're getting that old & needing sex, they need to get married, & you need to train them! Our Homes are the perfect situation for Teenage Marriage Clinics, for on-the-job training right there where there are usually plenty of women who have had lots of sex & lots of husbands & lots of babies & know all about it!
47. I frankly think that marriage will be much better for them than your present system. It's definitely more Scriptural, it's more God's plan, God's intention.--Not just to irresponsibly play around with sex as a toy without realising that there's a price to pay. God intended for you to pay that price to learn how to love & take care of each other & take care of your home & your children.
MINIMUM AGES FOR MARRIAGE!
48. (Maria: Do the young people have to be a certain age before they start living together?) Well, as far as legal marriage is concerned, in most countries there's usually a minimum.
49. If the minimum legal age for girls to get married with parental consent is 16, then they're not going to start having babies till they're 16, when they can officially even get legally married.
50. Now that would be the safest thing to do, simply officially prohibit marriage & sex, except whatever they manage to do privately.--And we've taught our Family to be able to deliver themselves without any big to-do about it, both girls & boys can masturbate, so they're not going to suffer too much. (See "Teen Sex," No.2061:51-55.)
A "WAY OF ESCAPE," & "GOING STEADY!"
51. Of course, God is merciful, & "will not suffer you to be tempted above that which you are able, but will with the temptation also make a way of escape that you may be able to bear it."--1Cor.10:13. If our teens simply can't contain, & they occasionally have a sexual need that must be met & fulfilled, they don't have to feel all frustrated & condemned. If they're not in a Home or situation where they can find a suitable mate, & they need help, then I'm sure with the help of their Shepherds they can work out some sort of arrangement, D.V.--Providing they abide by the rules we've already given in the Letters, & they don't do anything foolish that could jeopardise or scandalise the Lord's Work!
52. Also, when a teen couple decides that they would like to get married, they could even start "going steady."--In other words, start seriously working together, having their Get-Out together, Word time together, etc. Back in the early Letters I strongly advocated this, that prospective couples learn to be real friends & co-workers before even considering marriage! I used to recommend that they work very closely together for at least 3-6 months before marrying!--That way they can make sure it's real Love, the Lord's Will & good for His Work! (See ML#s S:9; 58:14,15; 154:65-69; 1566:130!)
53. As I've often said, most of marriage is not sex, but living life together in all of its activities & responsibilities. So the more you live together as brother & sister--working, studying, eating, relaxing, sharing hearts & praying together before marriage--the better you will know each other, & know whether you are really suited for each other or not. If you can do everything else well together, then sleeping together will probably present no major problems! PTL!
MORE ADVANTAGES OF OUR MARRIAGE PREP COURSE!
54. Well, I think this is a happy solution to a difficult situation. And not only that, a real improvement on our teens' training & education! Frankly, it makes me very happy to know that our teens are going to get the right kind of training & have the right supervision in that training so that we can have the right kind of couples, fathers & mothers, make them the right kind of parents, & as a result get the right kind of grandchildren.
55. I think it's been a woefully lacking part of our Family training or educational experience. I think it's really lacking & we need it, & we need it now! So let's get this Marriage Prep program started!
56. Let's teach our teens something worthwhile that will really give them the right preparation for marriage! I don't know, can you think of a better term than Marriage Prep? They might as well know that that's what they're headed for, & that's the only thing we're going to encourage & recommend, genuine marriage, mating, husband & wife situations.
57. (Maria: A Marriage Prep Course like that would even be a good sample for the System too.) Yes, you could brag about it! "What do you teach your teens, those sexy teens?--We teach ours Marriage Prep, all the subjects they need to know to prepare them for marriage!" (Maria: All schools have homemaking & things like that, but you say "Marriage Prep" & they could see that we're different.) Right away they're going to ask you, "Oh, is that sex education?" Well, you can say, "Partly, yes. But that's only a very minor part of the course."
58. Spiel off all the other things they learn about cooking, sewing, pregnancy, babycare, homecare, housecare, maintenance, home repairs, all kinds of things. You can make a list of subjects a yard long on all the things they learn in Marriage Prep. I think the System would really admire you for that. That they would accept.
59. Well, amen, I think we've made some progress! We've developed a whole new course of training for young people, & it's really needed. And I think that that's a great reward, the prize, if they pass the course, that we'll approve their marriage. How's that? That ought to be a real shiner's prize!
60. Sex may not necessarily be any big deal to our teenagers, but I think marriage is, & that's what they need to consider & realise that that's what it's all about & what it's for.--Not just something to play around with. It's God's way & God's plan, God's ordination, God's rule, & the way He made things to work. And if you work'm God's way, they will work! And it will make you happier & your mate happier, your children happier, everybody will be happier, & certainly God will be happy because you're doing it the right way & how He intended you to. It'll make us happy too!
61. I'd love to see some of these young people get married in the right way. You can have a very nice betrothal ceremony just as good as a wedding, so that they don't even have to have another wedding. All they have to do when the time comes when they're of age to legally marry is go down & get the license, that's all, a little piece of paper that is necessary for some things. But you could make their earlier betrothal just as beautiful & as wonderful & exciting as a wedding!
62. All right, who would like to close in prayer & ask for God's blessing on this plan & program, & that our teenagers will like it, love it, be enthusiastic about it & be willing to sacrifice a few of their present liberties & pleasures in order to be prepared for real life & the real thing! Amen, PTL! TYL!
63. (Fam: Thank You so much, Lord, for this answer to a real problem worldwide, this answer that You've given through Dad that is so simple & clear & easy, & at least makes the whole plan with a purpose rather than just sex for sex, or even unguided sex. This plan will really teach & train, & we're so thankful for it, Lord, & we do thank You for giving it, it's a real answer. We pray now, Lord, that You'll help us to carry it out & to inspire the teens with it.
64. (Help them to see the benefits that are ahead, Jesus, real training, Lord, training in the school of life that they're going to have to lead. Now they'll have this golden opportunity, Lord, our teens all around the World. We pray the teens accept it & realise the benefits, Lord, not just look at the bit of sacrifice, but see the great benefits & the change that it can make in their life & their future happiness and in their love and in their sex and in their marriage.
65. (Please do help all of our parents & teachers to seek You & to get Your answers on exactly what to teach, or at least how to teach the things that we should be teaching. Help all the different people that have the knowledge of these things to be able to get together & pump people power for the answers, Lord. We thank You for giving this answer to Dad, & all this counsel, Lord, & all that he's poured out, it's just so terrific, it's such a milestone, & we just thank You so much for it, in Jesus' name.) Amen, amen, TYJ!
PRACTICAL & THEORETICAL TRAINING & SEX-ED!
66. While praying I came up with a couple more little questions.--How much of a school day & how many times a week do you think such a course would require? One hour a day? Two hours a day? (Fam: Well, some of it would actually be part of the daily work routine, the handymen, the cleaning, the children, the cooking. Perhaps the Schools could set up a rotation system where for instance the girls spend one or two weeks in the childcare department, & they really learn, helping with the kids, changing diapers, etc. Then they could move to the housecleaning department, & all of the overseers & teachers could be geared to really teaching them.) Yes, learn by doing, the Clinical Method.
67. I think in addition to all of the practical on-the-job training, they're going to have to have some theoretical or informational training as well. For example, charts, pictures, diagrams, etc., of the sex organs & the process of pregnancy would be helpful. You need a sex education course, where you do some book-learning & lecturing with pictures or diagrams, etc., of the actual science of sex.
68. All the rest pretty much teaches them all of the practices of living together & homemaking & marriage prep & all the rest, but not all of our teenagers necessarily know all about how pregnancy occurs & what happens & how long it takes & the different technical facts about sex & the organs & all the rest. That should be a part of it, sex education, about the parts of their bodies, pregnancy & all those things, so they understand what's going on. The rest they can learn just from practical experience. The sex education class could be left until the end of the course, & could maybe be taught once a week or something, one hour a week.--By a good teacher who's serious about it & really wants them to learn, not just be sexy & have fun & laugh, but to really teach them what they need to know.
MINIMUM AGES TO TAKE THE COURSE!
69. Another thing that came to me is, what's the minimum age that they would be qualified to begin this type of course in Marriage Prep? In many places they can't legally get married till the girl's 16, the boy 18.
70. Now if that's the case, how long is the course going to be? Shall we say a one-year course? I don't think that would be too much, one year of real specific preparation for marriage. I think it's excellent training, good preparation, they need it. I think it should be a required course for all the teens.
HOW TO HANG ONTO OUR TEENS & MAKE THEIR MARRIAGES WORK!
71. Well, I think this is a major policy milestone in the Family, that this session will be a classic, because I think we've made some major decisions regarding our teenagers. Our children are our most valuable treasures, & any religious group that keeps its teenagers is rare! The churches haven't been able to keep them, they're notoriously lacking in teenagers. The teen years are usually the age when they leave the church & don't want to go to church any more & don't like any restrictions & blah blah. So the church that keeps its teenagers has really been very wise & an amazing success, because most of them don't!
72. By really giving our teenagers what they need to know, & letting them know that that's what they need to know, letting them really be convinced that that's really what they need, I believe we can hang on to them. From before their wedding night, maybe 3-6 months, we can train them in an atmosphere conducive to such training.
73. Where there's time & personnel that you can afford for it, you can even make it a year.--Make sure that they stay in that Home under supervision long enough to really make sure they're going to be good husbands & wives. Maybe by that time they'll have a baby, & they'll then learn all about that for sure. Don't even allow them to go out on their own or to a new Home until they've finished that supervised period.
74. You say teenage marriages don't work?--Let's make'm work! I believe in them, I believe God intended it that way, & I believe we can make them work with the cooperation of our teenagers! And I believe we can get them to cooperate. They're sometimes a little independent, stubborn & balky, but I found with mine & most of them, that although they may balk at first, they're like the son who said no, he wouldn't, but then he finally did.--Mat.21:28,29. So I believe the Lord will work it out. If you'll do your part & they'll do their part, I'm sure the Lord will do His part to make it work! PTL!
75. What shall we call this conference?--"Make It Work!" Make it work, that was the main thing that I exhorted you. So let's make'm work! Okay? PTL! GBY! Make it work!
P.S. Although we firmly believe that marriage is God's ideal, we are not going to the extreme of forbidding our young people to have any dates!--Just make sure that our Schools & Homes are not officially authorising & scheduling it! Why not just schedule Word dates instead where they can read together & fellowship & share together?--Amen? GBY! Make it work!
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