TEEN SEX!        DO 2061  9/85

         1. I BELIEVE THAT THE LORD CREATED TEENS TO HAVE THAT GENERATION GAP, TO WANT TO GET AWAY FROM THEIR PARENTS & TO WANT TO BE INDEPENDENT, TO WANT TO BE ADULTS! I think God has given them that instinctive feeling of being a distinct kind all their own & different & separate & new. It's just like they sense that they're the new generation, they sense that they're the new leaders of tomorrow, & that's one reason they respond so wonderfully when you get them away from the older generation who sort of tend to hold them down & not trust them, & who in some cases in the System & the World, even almost resent them! They are jealous of them in the World because they see that they're coming up & they're becoming competition & that they are going to literally take over!
         2. GOD HAS GIVEN THE TEENAGERS ALMOST LIKE AN ANOINTING FOR THE FUTURE, a feeling of being special & different & willing to be new & revolutionary, etc. (Maria: But they don't want to be different in the sense of responsibility. They want to take adult responsibility & they could be treated like adults.)--Of course! I don't mean separating them from the adults with the idea of giving them any special babying, I'm not talking about that. I'm talking about separating them from the adults in order to let'm grow up & take responsibility!
         3. THEY FEEL A DEFINITE GENERATION GAP & USUALLY A FEELING OF RESENTMENT THAT THE ADULTS AROUND THEM WILL NOT LET THEM BECOME ADULTS & will not let them take responsibility. Dr. Fakima used to call it the age of responsibility & decision. If you haven't trained them up in the way they should go by that time, it's too late, because they are already adults even as young teenagers. They already have that feeling of being adults, that desire to be adults, that feeling of responsibility, that desire to make their own decisions & to set their own ideals & standards.
         4. THEY'RE REALLY IDEALISTIC AT THAT AGE & THEY ARE PERFECTIONISTS IN A WAY. They look at the adults & wonder why they're not perfect. They expect perfection of them & are disappointed & disillusioned in the adults around them because they're not perfect, because they're really seeking perfection. I'm talking about our kind of kids.
         5. YOU'VE GOT TO GIVE TEENAGERS A LITTLE ROOM. You've got to give them a little trust & responsibility & recognise that they are adults. They're not going to be adults, they're already young adults & they want to be trusted, they want to be given jobs, they want to be given responsibility. They may not always do it perfectly, but they have to be given it to learn, & they have to learn how to make decisions. You have to help them. You have to give them a chance to make decisions & carry responsibility, or they never learn. In a sense they're like apprentices learning a job.
         6. SO GOD HAS REALLY GIVEN THEM A SORT OF ANOINTING TO KNOW & SENSE THAT THEY ARE THE LEADERS OF THE FUTURE, that they have responsibility! They're very idealistic, they really want the best & to do their best. They have high ideals! They really try to reach for perfection. Of course, they can't always make it & don't usually make it for themselves really, but they seek role models & ideals, heroes & heroines that they can look up to, that they want to follow.
         7. THE LORD'S MADE THEM VERY IDEALISTIC TO WANT TO MAKE A BETTER WORLD & BE BETTER PEOPLE & SEEK & FOLLOW AFTER BETTER PEOPLE THAT ARE TRYING TO MAKE THE WORLD BETTER! How do you think we got all of our teenagers in those early days? They followed me because I was preaching what they wanted to hear, that things are in a mess & there should be a better World & there was a way to find it & make it, & the Bible proved it, so they loved it! And they were revolutionary, they wanted to change the World & make it a better World!
         8. ONE OF THE RISKS YOU RUN WITH TEENAGERS IS THAT THEY'RE ALWAYS SEEKING TO BE IDEALISTIC & LOOKING FOR PERFECTION, & OF COURSE THEY SELDOM FIND IT IN THEIR PARENTS.--Except in our Family they do find a lot of good. They may not find perfection, but they can certainly see that which is idealistic & that their parents are striving toward the good & the perfect, striving for better things! So I think they have greater respect, admiration & trust for their parents in our Family.--But their parents need to have greater respect & trust & admiration for them!
         9. I THINK WE'VE HAD THE EXPERIENCE ALREADY WITH SOME FAMILY CHILDREN who have been brought up right in the nurture & admonition of the Lord, that sometimes even with their own parents familiarity has bred contempt in both directions, so that their parents don't really trust them enough to give them responsibilities. They still treat them as children, little children at that, & still aren't quite willing to surrender responsibility.
         10. IN THE CASE OF ADULTS IT'S A MATTER OF THEIR SURRENDERING A PART OF THEIR RESPONSIBILITIES & their authority to up-&-coming young adults that are going to take over from them one of these days. It seems sometimes that the adults & parents are a little jealous of their authority & their responsibility & they don't necessarily like to trust the kids with some of those things. But if you never let a child learn how to swim on his own without a life-saver or an inner tube, he'll never learn how to swim!
         11. YOU CAN'T TAKE THE WORLD & ITS CHILDREN FOR AN EXAMPLE, THAT'S THE WORST KIND OF EXAMPLE, A DANDY BAD EXAMPLE!--What parents & children shouldn't be like! But in the Family I think we're a very good example of what parents should be like, teaching kids what's right & about the Lord & to follow Him & His principles & His Law of Love & His rules & getting them reared up in the way that they should go, so that when they're old they'll not depart therefrom! (Pro.22:6)--And that doesn't mean when they're old doddering octogenarians, it means that when they're old enough, full-grown teenagers, they are able to take responsibility & not depart from the ways of the Lord!
         12. OUR KIDS ARE GETTING LIKE THAT EVEN BEFORE THEY'RE TEENAGERS! They know how to work hard, clean house, cook, take care of babies & take real responsibility in every field of homemaking & home maintenance & all kinds of things! Our children in our own Home are more advanced, more mature, more knowledgeable, better-trained, more reliable, know better how to seriously take responsibility & do the right thing! Even our subteens are more like real adults! They're serious-minded, thoughtful, unselfish, considerate, kind, helpful & all the things that adults are supposed to be.
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         14. But oh boy, the System's not set up like that! They want to keep the kids virtually all their lives to where they never let'm out of the house. Selfish parents want to keep them there selfishly all their lives!
         15. BUT IF WE HAVE REARED OUR CHILDREN RIGHT TO LEARN ALL THE THINGS THAT THEY NEED TO, first of all to grow up in the nurture & the admonition of the Lord & to know & love Him & love others, they will be capable of responsibility at an early age, at the age of early teenagers, young teenagers. Look at how our young teenagers can cook & sew & keep house & take care of children.
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         20. (MARIA: THE THING IS, "PROTECTION" OF CHILDREN HAS SWEPT THE WORLD!)--Yes, & it's the Devil's kind of protection! It is the Devil's protection of his own children to want to make devils out of them & to keep them under his control, that's the whole thing. (Maria: But it has swept the whole World. Even the more so-called backward countries now have raised their marriage age way up.)--Exactly! They think they're uncivilised unless they have the same rules as the so-called developed countries, the rich countries. So they're trying to get away from child brides. But you take ultra-Catholic South America, they're pretty strict about some of those things, although they have pretty young marriages!
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         23. (MARIA: I WENT UNTIL 23 WITHOUT FUCKING & SO DID OTHERS & IT DIDN'T HURT US A BIT! So I don't think two years where you can't actually fuck, if you can do everything else, is going to hurt them! Why should they have to fuck? I don't think that's putting too much of a restriction on them.)
         24. I NEVER FUCKED UNTIL I WAS 25 & MARRIED! I had my own little do-it-yourself kit of 4 fingers & a thumb which was very satisfying when it was necessary.
         25. BUT CONSIDERING THE SEXUAL ATTRACTION BETWEEN YOUNG TEENAGE BOYS & GIRLS, YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE A FIGHT TO TRY TO KEEP'M APART! We don't want to keep them apart, but you're going to have a fight!--Because in that extreme passionate moment it's the natural instinct of the boy to want to get on & fuck the girl!--And it's her natural instinct too! So you're going to have a hard time to fight it off!
         26. (MARIA: WELL, IT WAS THE SAME INSTINCT WITH MOST OF US WHO ARE NOW PARENTS WHEN WE WERE GROWING UP, BUT OUR PARENTS CERTAINLY KNEW HOW TO THROW THE FEAR OF GOD INTO US & the fear of them & the fear of the System, that if we ever fucked it would be hell to pay & everything would go crash, 'cause horror of horrors, we'd get pregnant! And that was sufficient to keep most teen girls away from fucking! Most teen girls did not fuck because of that very reason. So if we throw enough fear of the System into our kids & motivate them to abstain because they are afraid to hurt the Lord's work, I think most of our teens would do it.)
         27. WELL, I THINK THAT EACH SITUATION & EACH GROUP & EACH INDIVIDUAL HAS TO PRETTY MUCH FIND OUT WHAT THE LORD WANTS THEM TO DO under their situation & conditions & the country they're in & the mores of the culture they live in, & conduct themselves according to that which will keep them out of trouble in that particular area. So we do have to be extra careful, especially with these young teenage menstruating girls & seminating boys, I agree. And it is possible, as you say & as others say & I say. You went till you were 23 before you fucked & I went till I was 25 before I fucked!--So hang on, kids! GBY! ILY!


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