.
-- Natalie (17) is looking fo
r Maria (of Ricky and Elaine). Contact me through the ABM or write to: PO Box 571573, Houston, TX 77257-1573
-- David (Isaiah Selah) and Joy would like to contact Job and Rose Clown (last heard from in Taiwan). E-mail: archive@netcom.ca.
-- Daniel Gypsy (French) and Christina (Nepalese), please contact Chris (Daniel SD.) and Ruthie. Add: P.O. BOX 240, Tanshui, 251 Taipei, Taiwan. E-mail: gemcr@asiaonline.net.tw
-- Liz (of French Philip), contact Breeze. Add: Russia 394000, Glavpochtamt Box
426, Voronezh.
former members seeking contact
--sent in by 1-800 team, USA
-- Carol Bernard is looking for a Family member named Jeriah Seeker; would like to correspond with him via e-mail. E-mail: childpoverty@sympatico.ca.
-- Omega Carpenter would like to get in touch with any Family members who remember him. Add: James Flanders, PO Box 809, Camp Wood, TX 78833.
-- Seth Eckersley is trying to get in touch with his father, Bob Dumont (Job). Add: 1000 S. Nova, Apt. 1406, Daytona Bea
ch, FLA 32114. E-mail: lynson9ronet@hotmail.
-- Aaron and Pearl would like to get in touch with friends in the Family, including Asaph and Olivet and Andrew and Esther. Add: Jean and Lata Golay, 52 Clubhouse Dr #20 A, Woodbury, CT 06798-3205.
-- Abel (Antonio Jiminez) would like to get in touch with Windy (Darlene). Add: Hidalgo 1805, Colonia Ladron de Gueyera, Guadalajara, Mexico. Tel: (3) 616-1036.
-- David Christner would like to contact friends in the Family, including Ralph Hopper, Je
rry McConkey, Isaac and Promise, Susanna and Sara (from Puerto Rico). Add: Suite 102A, 2831 Ringling Blvd., Sarasota, FL 34237. Tel: (408) 426-2144.
-- Jerry Golland (formerly Golden) is looking for Robin Stewart (Zephaniah). Lived with him and Esther (Puerto Rican national) in Puerto Rico in early '80's. E-Mail: golland@mail.travel-net.com.
brief ads
Calling males …
Ukraine
(From Valour:) Fellow men, I wanted to write an advertisement about the wonderful women you can meet in the for
mer Soviet Union. They are great!--Not only the sweet and hungry ones you meet when witnessing, but also the ones in the Homes. It totally amazes me to see all the things they are doing. Sometimes, however, they could use a man in the house to do things like: fix a car, a leaky tap, give them a compliment, etc.! Until you come, I'll do my best to help keep them happy; it's peanuts compared to how they make me feel!
pray for Mama
(From Peter:) Thank you for your prayers for Mama's health a
nd strength. Although she is very weak and bedridden, the Lord has miraculously helped her not to become as weak as naturally would be expected after bleeding for over a month. Please continue to pray that the bleeding will stop, and that the Lord will also protect her from headaches and colds.
When asking the Lord what more we could do to aid the healing process, He said: "Tell everyone to keep praying, not to let their guard down, until My work of healing is finished. Keep up those vigils! "
As you take your praise times and prayer times, take a moment to plead for her. At all times of the day, at meals, before get-outs, before your work, when you pray for another, make it a habit to pray for My queen. She needs much prayer. She lives on your prayer power. That's her lifeline! Her body is so weak, so frail, and she carries such a big yoke--the yoke of all of you. So do your part in bringing her to Me."
Thank you, dear ones, for joining in prayer for Mama's healing. We appreciate i
t greatly, and know that the Lord will answer--as He always does!
[LNF: Mama's bleeding completely stopped just before press time! Hallelujah! Mama and all of us here greatly appreciate your prayers. Please pray that the Lord will help Mama regain her strength quickly, and keep her from any more periods for a while.]
Mama jewels on … sharing the load
--to a young staff member
In some ways it's nice to be the sole person responsible for a job, but in other ways you really get tied down
and restricted. If you ever get sick, for example, you feel like, "My work's backing up, and there's nobody to do it!" But when you have a helper that can fill in for you, it puts your mind at ease. There are some definite advantages to having someone who can help take your place when necessary.
Also, if you have somebody that can help, then you're more free to branch out and help with other projects. You do a very good job on all the work you're doing, and I know it's a little hard to move ov
er and let other people help you, but you might be happy sometimes that you do have some help.--And the Lord always blesses giving.
tip of the day
When using Word for Windows, if you press the F8 key, you enable what is referred to as "extend mode." This is a mode that allows you to select different portions of text. When this mode is active, the letters EXT appear bold on the status bar. You can then use the arrow keys to select text, or press a key to select text until that character (i
.e., "Enter" will select until the end of the paragraph.)You can turn off the extend mode by pressing the ESC key, and then copy, cut or move the text. When you press the F8 key multiple times, you can select different parts of your text. Pressing F8 twice selects the current word. A third time results in the current sentence being selected. A fourth time selects the current paragraph, and a fifth time selects the whole document.
ws news
--from Mama's Home
Pubs progress
On the pubs fron
t, it's full steam ahead! The GN team is working on the 1998 Feast pubs, and many other goodies are in the pipelines. A number of Christmas Heaven's Library editions will be coming your way in late November and early December, several stories illustrated by a number of field artists--young and old!
Sam and Greg in Thailand reported that they have finished printing all 10 books in the first printing batch, and will begin on the second batch shortly. We've received sample copies of some of these
books, and they have come out beautifully! They will be shipping these books to the CRO areas in October. Please pray they will reach their destinations safely!
Some of the young people at our Home, as well as other WS members (in other units) are pressing in to put together the rest of the books in time for the second printing batch. More books are being added to the line-up, and God willing, we'll be printing a total of 20 books in this batch! In the last few weeks, the following books have
been finalized and are now on their way to our Thailand printing team: two FSM books, Power and Protection, MLKs, Teacher's Activity Guide, Lifelines 21 and 22, and From Jesus with Love, Volume 2. Please continue to pray for the production of these books, as well as the printing of them.
Home news
Mama and Peter held a staff meeting, in which they shared with us a beautiful and lengthy vision which was received in honor of Mama's birthday. We all closed our eyes and enjoyed the spirit trip
experience! Check out "Birthday Party Vision" (GN 751), soon to arrive in your mailbox!
Peter and Matthew will be visiting some of our hard-working WS units in the near future to encourage them, and to see what they can do to help make their jobs easier and streamline productions further.
Two visitors
One more tidbit of … big news … a daughter and grandson are here for a visit! That's right! Keana (Techi) and Trevor have come for a visit. Keana has been away for nearly two years at anoth
er WS unit, and Trevor (1 year, 8 months) has never visited. You can imagine the excitement and delight of all here to have these two special visitors.--Not only is it great fun having adorable Trevor running around the house, adding a new dimension to our lives, but it was Mama's first meeting with her grandson, as well as David's first time to meet his nephew--and what a sweet meeting it was!
ask-a-midwife
--By Rose Midwife, USA
Q: Is it safe for a pregnant woman to have intercourse in
her ninth month?
A: This is really a Mat. 9:29 situation--"according to your faith be it unto you." There isn't really any damage you can do to the baby unless your water bag is broken. Or if you are close to labor, then having intercourse might make you go into labor.
Dad at one time said that you shouldn't have intercourse during the last four weeks, and then later gave a Mt. 9:29 answer. Part of the reason Dad may have said it wasn't safe was because that is what the doctors' advice was
at the time Mother Eve was having children. Since then, doctors have found no evidence of harm in this area, unless the water bag is leaking or broken, and then it could bring infection into the womb.
For anyone who chooses to continue making love, they should follow the counsel in the pubs on positions for making love later in pregnancy (see Childcare Handbook #1, page 30), and it shouldn't hurt the mother. If it does hurt, you should either change positions or stop.
Q: Why does a baby cr
y so much in the first few days of life? Is it because the baby is hungry?
A: Normally the baby is not hungry, as his stomach needs to be cleaned out and can't handle milk yet--which is why all mothers have colostrum at first. The baby cries because inside the womb he is weightless and at birth he feels gravity for the first time (like when you have been in a swimming pool for a long time and then come out; you feel heavy). Baby also cries because he has never felt hot or cold, hungry or full
before. Noises are louder to him and the light is brighter.
Also, inside he always touched his mommy when he moved and now you want him to be alone in his bed. Likewise, he always heard the sound of mommy's heartbeat and his placenta. This is why he wants to nurse constantly; it's for security, not hunger. While nursing, he again touches mommy every time he moves and he can hear her heartbeat.
You say, "But what about his placenta sounds?" How many times have you seen and heard someone holdi
ng a newborn on their shoulder? They usually bounce a little and hold the baby tight and make a noise which sounds like "swish, swish" (the placental sound!). People do this naturally the world over! Didn't the Lord think of everything?
Another reason why your baby might cry is that when he grabs upward with one or both of his hands, he experiences a falling sensation, as he is used to feeling mommy all around him when making the slightest movement in the womb. So now, if he moves his arms aro
und and feels nothing, he thinks you've dropped him.--Scary, isn't it? This actually shows you have a smart baby, but it is still scary for him. One thing that helps during his first days of life is to wrap him in a blanket with his arms inside, so that when he moves his arms they feel the blanket there, and then he doesn't experience the falling sensation. Not to worry!--Baby will adjust in about three to four days and will stop crying--at the same time your milk comes in. That's why most peopl
e think babies are just born hungry!
grapes of thankfulness
Thanks to all who've helped the work here by your sacrificial gifts and prayers! We're so happy to be part of such a beautiful and caring Family!--Nepal team
He was 17 when I first met him in India, and already he was so cool, wholehearted, an anointed cook, a sincere and winsome witnesser, fun CC helper, a good friend, and encouraging brother! One of those "and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper" people. (A single mom raised
him and her other kids, GBH!--Job well done!) He's a sample of a bellwether who loves Jesus and others. Love ya, Paul (of Mary, Thailand)!--And a good daddy now and terrific singer.--D., Turkey
ladies and gents
she said: I've been finding out more and more each day as I grow in my new marriage that many little things "my man" doesn't seem to understand about me, and things he misses are really NOT INTENTIONAL! The things that I make such a big issue over, he honestly just doesn't see! It's
beginning to dawn on me that men just think differently than women. I read an interesting article in Marvelous Marriage about the man being similar to a bull, versus the woman being more like a butterfly.
If I can find a way to help him see these areas that are important to me without freaking out, then he is more than willing to change and comply with my heart's desires.--If he only knew what they were, ha! Poor guy! He is honestly dumbfounded sometimes at some of the things I bring up, such
as the times when I feel he's ignoring me or being insensitive. I'm beginning to believe that I need to honestly (without frustration) continue to tell him my likes and dislikes, instead of relying on him reading my mind. God bless our precious men who put up with us day after day in our emotional upheavals. It was precious the way Mariko described her sweet mate (see Grapevine #20 "Coping with Polygamy"). I can say the same for mine.
--Crystal (of Luke), ASCRO
he said: I think a lot of mi
sunderstandings and bad feelings between the sexes could be avoided if we had better communication. For some of us, I think the temptation is to have the attitude of, "Let's just let things flow and be real casual about everything and things will work out." In my experience when you just "let things flow," they flow all right, but usually down the drain!
I think many of us have experienced the scenario where you meet someone who seems to be a nice person, and there's an attraction there, and y
ou think there could be a little more. But you don't talk about it because that would be awkward! Then you have this situation where perhaps the guy is thinking, "Wow, she super likes me!" Next thing you know images of romantic movies are dancing around in his mind (only the actors are substituted with him and pretty Ms. X), with thousands of violins in the background (or a snare drum) playing: "And I ayeeeeee oh ayeeeee willll always luvvvvvv ewe, oh ayeeee, willll alwaaaaaays lovvvve ewe!" --
We've all been there!
In the meantime, pretty Ms. X is thinking no such thing, but rather is entertaining thoughts of, "Hmm, this is a real nice kind of part-time lover situation!" So we're left with two people perceiving the situation in two very different ways. If no one communicates, each person will carry their perception of the relationship on a hasty road right to its crash. -- We've all been there too!
At times I've tried communicating with girls about their intentions, my intentions
and what's between us (when we're not in bed, that is). While some are quite open, others respond with, "Argh, don't worry about it! Let's just be real casual and have casual sex and whatnot. Everything will be fine!" Hey, casual sex is alright with me (I hate wearing ties for those occasions anyway), but if our relationship, friendship or whatever, is going to last and everyone's going to come out of it as happy people, we're going to need to talk it out.
--22-year-old male
she said: I thi
nk we've got great boys in the Family, and even though I've never had a System boyfriend, I'm sure that if I ever did, I would really appreciate how wonderful our boys are.
When I read the Ladies and Gents section, I get the impression that the girls are trying to make Don Juans out of all our boys, when I think we have some already. I feel the old principle still applies: Look for the good in others and bring it out.--It's really the best way to make friends. I've met some real gentlemen, and
I would say that I haven't been much of a lady.
I know there is a need for more affection in our Homes, but I'm starting to see that it has to start with me. One thing that I think is missing in a lot of us teens' lives is more freedom of the spirit about affection. I'm really interested in what adults have to say on the subject; I feel we can learn a lot from them. Let's all try to look for the good in the opposite sex. Okay?
--Ruth (18), Thailand
she said: Recently, becoming a single m
om made me think a lot about whether boys would still love me just as much with my kid as they would without him. I've had various boys write and say, "Poor thing, I really feel bad for you. Although it will be a lot harder now, I hope you find the right guy." I'd sure like to get a letter that says, "Don't worry, boys will love you just the same!" If any of you guys have a comment regarding this, please write in.
--female YA, Pakistan
he said: I was just reading over this Grapevine issue b
efore it went to press, and I'd like to comment on your article. Please don't be discouraged or feel like having a kid will ruin your chances of getting a guy, or whether the boys will love you as much. If a guy really loves you, he'll love you just as much whether you have a child or not. If he doesn't, then in my opinion, he's not worth your time and you're better off with someone else. So your chances of finding the right one who will love and take care of you are still good!
And to the guy
s, getting together with a girl who already has a child has many benefits: for one, you have a ready-made family and don't even have to wait at least nine months for your first kid! Plus, she'll probably be maturer and more experienced than other childless girls her age, because that's what motherhood does!
--Francis Fisherman (28), WS
she said: A wee word in regards to our dear male populace: Since it seems quite popular to mention the rather unappealing things that we see in them, I thoug
ht I'd say a little something in their favor: I think they're just wonderful! It would be so nice if we could let up a bit on our dear boys. They seem to get "bashed" or scrutinized so much that I wouldn't be surprised if some of them start developing persecution complexes! Of course, a few tips and reminders always help, but on the whole, we all have our problems and shortcomings. I'm sure you'd all agree with that.
Naturally, I have found some that are more to my personal liking than others;
we all have our types and tastes. From time to time I run into some with whom--as one person so fittingly described it--my chemistry doesn't quite match. However on the overall, I think our guys are super terrific!! Where would we be without them?
Maybe we could have a slot where some of us girls could write about some specific instances where guys have done special things and have been real gentlemen in order to show that it does happen! C'mon, girls, whadaya say? Let's let them know that we
appreciate them! And this doesn't mean just our boyfriends or husbands, but the many others too! Guys, you are loved, wanted, appreciated and needed!
--C. (20), Japan
cute kids
-- When we were getting ready to go busking, Marimée (7) said, "We can't go busking, it's going to disturb the bus driver!"--Timothy and Phoebe, Brazil
-- Marina (3, of Jônatas and Hepsi) was helping me (Vida) wash the white furniture in the pool area. I commented, "These chairs are full of germs!" Marina replie
d, "Yes, these germs are so filthy. Let's give them a good bath!"--Vida, Brazil
now that's funny!
An elderly priest invited a young priest over for dinner. During the meal, the young priest couldn't help noticing how attractive and shapely the housekeeper was. Over the course of the evening he started to wonder if there was more between the elderly priest and the housekeeper than met the eye.
Reading the young priest's thoughts, the elderly priest volunteered, "I know what you must be t
hinking, but I assure you, my relationship with my housekeeper is purely professional."
About a week later the housekeeper came to the elderly priest and said, "Father, ever since the young Father came to dinner, I've been unable to find the beautiful silver gravy ladle. You don't suppose he took it, do you?"
The priest said, "Well, I doubt it, but I'll write him a letter just to be sure."
So he sat down and wrote: "Dear Father, I'm not saying that you 'did' take a gravy ladle from my hous
e, and I'm not saying you 'did not' take a gravy ladle. But the fact remains that one has been missing ever since you were here for dinner."
Several days later the elderly priest received a letter from the young priest which read: "Dear Father, I'm not saying that you 'do' sleep with your housekeeper, and I'm not saying that you 'do not' sleep with your housekeeper. But the fact remains that if you were sleeping in your own bed, you would have found the gravy ladle by now."
--courtesy of Ker
enina, Kenya
peanuts 'n' raisins
[Illustrated Comic: One day Isabella (4 yrs. Old) said: "I feel like singing a song I don't know, but since I don't know it I can't sing it." - Courtesy of John and Rose, Denmark.]
shine on
TEAMWORK Per Adult Total
SOUL SHINERS FOR AUGUST '97
Timothy F./Rejoice Eve/Dove F., U.S.A. 538 3,768
Samuel/Keren, Brazil 500 1,500
Ezequiel/Rejoice/Jonathan, Brazil 340 1,700
Peter/Cielo/Zacarias/Lucero, Colombia 333 2,336
Pablo E., Chile 243 731
Christi
an/Marco/Gabriel, Albania 233 1,168
Pablo/Love, Ecuador 230 460
Nehemias Swiss/Rosa, Brazil 185 370
Peter/Stephen/Joseph, Russia 179 1,255
Servant/Phoebe Holyhole, Mexico 166 500
POSTER SHINERS FOR AUGUST '97
Michael/Maria, Japan 2,727 5,454
Isacco/Sephora/Juan, Italy 1,893 7,574
James/Claire, Japan 1,305 6,529
Paul/Lydia, Japan 1,289 7,736
Steven/Mercy, Japan 1,237 3,711
Victor B./Love, U.S.A. 1,236 7,418
Timothy F./Rejoice E./Dove F., U.S.A. 1,181 8,267
Andrew/Ruth, Japan 1,093
2,186
Abner/Promise, Japan 1,048 2,096
Francis M./Joanna Rose/Maria N., U.S.A. 1,044 7,308
TAPE SHINERS FOR AUGUST '97
David/Madalena/Francisco/Joana, Brazil 113 569
Davide/Joan, Italy 108 217
Paulo/Maria Pionera, Brazil 85 170
Michael/Faith, Italy 75 150
Santiago/Clara, Brazil 66 200
Rebeca/Estrella Cromwell, Colombia 65 195
Andrew/Crystal/Ang/Maureen/Gabriel, U.S.A. 54 325
Josue M./Abigail M./Santiago E., Costa Rica 51 307
Rufus Reuben/Dulce/Nina, U.S.A. 46 140
Pablo E., Chile 4
3 130
VIDEO SHINERS FOR AUGUST '97
Jose/Ester, Colombia 51 103
Joseph/Rosa, Chile 45 91
Emanuel/Rubi, Ecuador 44 89
Joanna/Lily/James, Brazil 35 358
Matthew/Micah, Taiwan 27 162
Juan/Amor, Chile 25.5 51
Jimmy/Joy, Taiwan 25.0 50
Pablo/Love, Ecuador 22.0 44
Davide/Joan, Italy 22.0 44
Barz/Sara/Nina, Portugal 21.3 64
Timoteo/Cristal/Suzanna/Heaven, Brazil 21.2 149
FREE POSTER SHINERS FOR AUGUST '97
John/Mercy/Andres/Patience, Estonia 9,120 45,600
Benjamin/Lily/Mariangela, Ukrai
ne 7,857 55,000
Matthew/Marie/Yana/Peter, Kazakhstan 7,696 46,178
Paul/Ruthie/Meekness/Miguel/David, Russia 5,537 22,148
Abner/Elisa/Mary/Mercy/Snezhana, Ukraine 5,494 38,458
Philip/Gentleness/Faith/Chiara, Ukraine 5,000 20,000
Gabe/Maria/Philip, Russia 3,900 11,700
Simon (Josh)/Julia, Poland 3,000 6,000
Daniel/Joanna/Vera, Russia 2,916 17,500
Tim/Joy/James, Ukraine 2,600 13,000
newdayz
Newdayz Comic strip. By David Komic
Dean the Teen: "Hey, Dad, check out 'Rumor Mill'. Someon
e heard a rumor that they only have one meal a day at Mama's Home."
Dad: "What?!! Let me see that, Son!"
Dad (clicking on the calculator): " Hmm… one meal a day instead of three…monthly food bills divided by three means BIG savings!"
Dad (hugging his son) "What a GREAT IDEA! Thank you!!"
Dean: "Oops! Mistake!"
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